tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3079717797619018724.post314218461101959862..comments2024-03-06T23:47:16.776-08:00Comments on Thin and Curvy: The Modesty PanelBrittanyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08977491431845058152noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3079717797619018724.post-52912074550394367872013-06-20T00:20:16.927-07:002013-06-20T00:20:16.927-07:00I have been following all the various bloggers ...I have been following all the various bloggers 'modesty' panel comments and really enjoyed this one too. It is such a minefield with so many polarised opinions which is so difficult to sum up well but I love the comment, "a whirling mess of religious beliefs, rape culture, slut shaming, moralistic lecturing, and so on". I think that sums it up well. There really is no way to please all the people all the time.Bounteoushttp://www.bounteous.co.uknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3079717797619018724.post-39045292808610477372013-06-15T21:38:27.514-07:002013-06-15T21:38:27.514-07:00Bless this post! I personally feel more comfortabl...Bless this post! I personally feel more comfortable in "modest" clothing because I'm notorious for not thinking before I decide to cartwheel down the quad, and it's nice to hear someone else shares my sentiments. While I was raised religious, my parents always instructed me that "While it's always the man's duty to look away, many guys won't be raised right, and we must not lead each other to even possibly thinking sinfully." The same went for my brothers, who are also required to dress within reason (no boxers will be seen above waistbands in our house! ). I actually find it more empowering to be reasonably covered, as I'm in control of who sees what and when (especially important because of my GAD and self-esteem issues); it leaves a little mystery to my persona. :) Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14733456681052814177noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3079717797619018724.post-2857446420933099712013-05-30T13:00:57.090-07:002013-05-30T13:00:57.090-07:00Ack. Wear*. I wish I could edit comments!Ack. Wear*. I wish I could edit comments!Laura (DT)https://www.blogger.com/profile/01769096842013223783noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3079717797619018724.post-40200621418434101902013-05-30T13:00:17.808-07:002013-05-30T13:00:17.808-07:00I can totally understand your frustration! It'...I can totally understand your frustration! It's unacceptable that what you're basically being told is that your body is inappropriate for work. I would take a look at what the guys are wearing, and just dress on the same "formality" level. Is it the kind of IT where everyone gets to wear jeans? Great. Just wear what they were. Is it the kind of IT where you at least have to wear dress pants? Great. Just wear some business casual clothing. Is it a kind of IT where you have to be in suits all the time? Okay, wear a suit. My best advice is to wear something that *fits* you. It doesn't have to cling, and it doesn't have to bag. Just wear something that fits. You can wear a baggier blouse and cinch it in with a skinny belt at the waist.Laura (DT)https://www.blogger.com/profile/01769096842013223783noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3079717797619018724.post-74935663196182117572013-05-27T16:14:09.227-07:002013-05-27T16:14:09.227-07:00I agree that modesty depends a lot on the culture ...I agree that modesty depends a lot on the culture that surrounds you. In this country the issue of modesty is rather curious. Growing up I was on the tall side, 5ft, 9 inches and on the slender side. As I grew older I put on a lot of weight and was 205 at my peak. Clothes have been a problem as I could never really find some that fit and like many girls I knew modesty was and wasn't an issue. There were no short skirts, cleavage revealing tops but I wore shorts like most in the summer. There just wasn't much of a focus on what I wore or didn't wear. Now I am much more focused on what I wear but find that fashion is so much more unfocused. No rules, no real limitations or at least that is how it seems to me. I am anxious to read how other women dealt and deal with the issue with modesty on the modesty panel as it is clarifying my own thoughts on the subject. Lingeriehttp://www.flirtylingerie.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3079717797619018724.post-75392384043219353762013-05-23T19:47:17.440-07:002013-05-23T19:47:17.440-07:00What a fantastic post! I LOVE your words and the m...What a fantastic post! I LOVE your words and the modesty campaign, I agree there should be no judgemental and if everyone embraces who they are and how they like to dress then we would be empowering everyone!<br /><br />The flow is so much better when we all empower each other!<br /><br />RxBra Queenhttp://www.braqueen.com.aunoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3079717797619018724.post-59589374922550380112013-05-19T10:32:07.325-07:002013-05-19T10:32:07.325-07:00Check out this comic: http://bustygirlcomics.com/p...Check out this comic: http://bustygirlcomics.com/post/26561844702/double-standard<br /><br />This is how I always feel dressing for work. Do I wear loose clothes and have that bag lady look as you described? Or do I wear form fitting clothes, which show off my very busty/hourglass shape? Compounding that is I work in IT and don't even have any other women to try to get some ideas from what they're wearing. Michellenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3079717797619018724.post-76286619446291871052013-05-18T14:01:40.108-07:002013-05-18T14:01:40.108-07:00I had the same problem in Middle School, with the ...I had the same problem in Middle School, with the trendy short shirts and low-rise jeans. I wasn't really "tall," I just started very short (maybe 4'10 or so) and had a big, fast growth spurt up to my current height of 5'5. Not only that, but I have a similar bone structure to you, so my small waist made me look more curvy than I actually was. So I was always getting in trouble for my clothes not fitting me "right," or looking "too revealing," which was frustrating to me because I wasn't even TRYING to be "sexy" at all. I was one of those middle schoolers who thought that trying to dress sexy was stupid, so being accused of it made me feel like I had no control over how I presented my body. I always thought it was so unfair, I even wrote a letter to the principal about it and got some leeway. So I suppose that experience has helped shape me into the feminist I am today, haha.<br /><br />Anyway, lovely post as always--I dress quite differently from you, but I love hearing about all the different fashion perspectives everyone has.That Bra Does Not Fit Herhttp://thatbradoesnotfither.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3079717797619018724.post-29333955491828792562013-05-18T07:26:05.966-07:002013-05-18T07:26:05.966-07:00I've always enjoyed your style posts because y...I've always enjoyed your style posts because you have a great eye for outfits and silhouettes. While I'm not especially tall, I've heard similar stories from taller friends who were bullied because of their height or continue to struggle with finding clothes that fit properly. It was great being able to read a little more about your personal style and how you came to develop it!Sophisticated Pairhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07548874262631290892noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3079717797619018724.post-35501866011085649112013-05-17T23:45:57.826-07:002013-05-17T23:45:57.826-07:00I really connect with a lot of what you say here -...I really connect with a lot of what you say here - I don't wear high-heels and don't generally wear things that most people would find "revealing" (what the subculture I grew up in might think is a different story...). The popular "pin-up" styles just aren't me at all, and I don't really do dresses. I tend to really dress for comfort most of the time, although I've been gradually trying to spend more effort into looking "put together" as of late. I think one effect of the Modesty Culture that I lived with growing up was that I developed the ingrained thought that looking nice was somehow a bad, attention-seeking thing, and it's hard for me to get past that sometimes.<br /><br />I don't really have a fully-developed "established style" as of now, but you're definitely a style inspiration for me (even though our styles (what there is of mine) may not be quite the same)!Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08928146749204392195noreply@blogger.com