I have also seen D+ bloggers, women on forums, etc, go on about how much better, prettier, sexier, we curvy women are. How no man wants a B cup woman. These women are often saying these things to try to build up the confidence and self esteem of themselves or fellow curvy women. But they are saying these things at the expense of smaller-chested women.
I'm not okay with that.
I think that, in the toxic world of body image that we live in today, you have to insulate yourself, mentally, against all the negativity. I know that many- perhaps even most- large chested women feel at least some degree of shame about their chests at some point in their lives. Part of finding your own beauty is finding women whom you can identify with, and focusing on their type of beautiful. I love the world of fashion blogging for providing role models for any age, any body type, any size, any style. You can, and should, find somebody- or several somebodies- that you find beautiful and can identify with for whatever body type and style you might have. Because anybody and everybody can be beautiful.
For this reason, even I am sometimes guilty of jokingly implying- to myself, my boyfriend, to other curvy women- that our body shape is somehow superior. The truth is, it can be a hard balance to strike. And our beautiful, curvy bodies are worth celebrating. Because everybody should celebrate their body, whatever shape it might be. Not because large boobs are inherently more beautiful than small ones.
|Keira Knightly. See? Also beautiful!|
If you're a smaller-chested lady reading this, listen. I often feel pretty envious of ladies blessed with small breasts. Oh, how wonderful it would be to be able to go without a bra- or at least have a choice. To look glamorous instead of frumpy in loose-fitting shirts. To not have to deal with the unwanted, creepy male attention. To not have to worry you are showing too much cleavage or falling out of your shirt. The ability to just walk into stores and wear whatever shirt you want! I never wanted big boobs. I knew what a struggle my mother had with them, and I didn't want to have the same issue.
Big busted ladies, we cannot build up our own body image at the expense of other women. It is wrong, and it is harmful, and it is immature. The bottom line is, if we all want our body shapes to be accepted and considered beautiful, then we need to be part of the solution. Believe it or not, it is possible for us to consider multiple body types beautiful at once! No matter what your shape is, you can find ways to dress it and accentuate it and be sexy and pretty.
(FWI if you're new here: I never use "curvy" to mean plus-sized or fat. "Curvy" refers to large chested, pear shaped, or hourglass shaped women of any size.)